Valeria reasons on how the context of her family of origin, made up of mothers with many children and absent fathers, may have been subconsciously crucial in her choice not to have children.
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VALERIA: «My name is Valeria Sanna, I’m from Gavoi and I work in Cagliari, but I also move between Cagliari and Gavoi.
I was born into a family of five children, I am the only female, the others are all men and the examples I had in my family was of women who had many children. My maternal grandmother had ten, my paternal grandmother had seven and mom had five, so I was born in a place of war with mothers struggling with children.
That’s not why I didn’t have kids because I wasn’t aware about this issue at the time, I figured it out later.
Probably I was unconsciously burned by those experiences.
All these women struggling, men who weren’t home, my grandfather was a pastor and he wasn’t there, mom herself had a husband who has worked hard, we lacked nothing.
However, as you say, he never fed us, not even when we were little.
And I tried to make my own life, I concentrated on my work, to find my own place in this world.
I was always rushing and I forgot to have kids, but I didn’t miss it.
Now I’m sixty, I started thinking why, and maybe I said to myself, having around me all these women who struggled alone with their children, that might have been the reason why I didn’t do it.
Today I work with the kids, with young people, I’m always around kids and young people.
I recently returned from Tanzania as a missionary I spent a month among youngsters.
You can also be a mother of the world, you don’t necessarily need to bring your own children into this world.»
Sardo logudorese:
VALERIA: «Mi naro Valèria Sanna so gavoesa e triballo in Casteddu pero’mi moo fintzas tra Casteddu e Gavoi.
So naschia in d-una famìlia de chimbe fizos, solu ego so s’ùnica fèmina, sos atros sunt totus mascros e apo tentu esèmpios de fèminas in sa famìlia mia chi ant fatu medas fizos, nonna materna nde teniat deche, sa nonna paterna nde teniat sete e mama nd’at fatu chimbe, cuindi so naschia in d-unu logu de gherra de mamas gherrande cun pitzinnos.
No apo fatu fizos non pro custu ca no fui consapevole namos de custa problematica, l’apo cumpresa apustis probabilmente fui iscaddada inconsciamente, totu sas fèminas gherrande, òmines chi non b’aiat in domo, nonnu meu fit pastore e non b’aiat, mama gai etotu at tentu unu maridu chi at triballau meda no nos at fatu mancare nudda pero’, comente nat issa, no los at mai imbucau mancu cando fint minoreddos.
E dego apo cricau de mi facher una vida, de mi ghetare a su triballu meu po mi àere unu logu in càmbiu in custu mundu e po curtu meda, mi c’apo… mi che so irmenticada de fàcher fizos pero’ no m’est mancu mancau.
Poi como tenzo sessant’annos e apo comintzau fintzas a mi la pessare no, ma comente mai e probabilmente m’apo nau tenende totu a fiancu, totu custas fèminas gherrande solas cun pitzinnos fortzis est istau custu su motivu chi no nd’apo fatu.
Oze triballo cun sos pilocos cun sos zòvanos, so sempre in mesu de pitzinnos, in mesu de zòvanos, da pacu so ghirada de sa Tanzània comente missionària e apo colau unu mese in mesu a sos pitzinnos e apo nau una podet èssere fintzas mama de su mundu no est nau chi depet èssere per forza mama de fizos chi at fatu issa.»
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